Every marriage has challenges, and it can seem like those affecting your marriage are overwhelming. Even so, there comes a time in some marriages when two people simply shouldn't live together. While it might be possible to reconcile in some cases, there are certain situations in which separating is the only logical answer, so it's important that you recognize the difference:
Determining the Unforgivable
Minor inter-personal issues can often be worked through, and unless there are a whole cadre of irritating quirks, faults and behaviors there's a good chance you can work through it together. You have to determine how invested you are in the marriage though, and where your tolerance ends.
Working with a therapist, either for yourself or both you and your spouse, can help you better understand the underlying cause of certain behaviors, and help you recognize when you're being taken advantage of. There is a whole other category of conflict that you shouldn't be expected to forgive, regardless of your tolerance level for your spouse's less endearing qualities.
Many states have statutes which allow for divorce on the grounds of abuse, infidelity, and criminal activities, so if it's time to end it you'll have an easier time if evidence of these exists. Working with a lawyer will make it easier to determine if grounds for a contested divorce of this nature exist, and they'll be able to start the process.
Working Through What Can Be Worked Through
If your motivations for divorce fall into irreconcilable differences, which are issues that aren't criminal in nature and don't cause harm to you or others, there's a chance you can overcome it. Many lawyers offer free consultations to anyone considering divorce, but few mention marriage counseling during these meetings so it's up to you to investigate that option. A good counselor might be able to help you and your spouse resolve any differences that have led you to consider a divorce in the first place.
If you've been married for more than a few years you owe it to yourself to at least have the conversation with your spouse. This is even more important if there are children who will be affected by the separation, so consider their well-being during the process too.With 40-50 percent of all marriages in America ending in divorce, it's better to try and fail than simply give up.
The reasons for seeking a divorce are many and varied, but that doesn't mean that everyone who considers divorce as an option has thought it through completely. Make sure you know what your options are, and what will be involved in the divorce process before you settle on a course of action. It may seem like it today, but ending a marriage is rarely the only option available.
To learn more, contact a company like Harold Jarnicki Attorney At Law with any questions you have.Share